Pick and Choose

Parenting styles vary from person to person, and they can have a huge influence on how children develop and grow. Each style has its strengths and weaknesses, and it’s important to understand how you fit into the mix. Knowing where you fit in as a parent can help you make better decisions in raising your children and can help you to understand why your children may do things a certain way.

It’s essential to find a balance between these parenting styles to ensure that your children grow up to be well-rounded, healthy, and successful adults. So where do you fit in?

Authoritarian parenting:

This style is characterized by strict rules, high demands, and low warmth and responsiveness. Children are expected to obey their parents without question, and punishment is often used to maintain control.

These parents are like army generals, commanding their kids and expecting them to obey without objection. Authoritarians do not accept any feedback from their offspring. Their restrictive and structured environment produces children who are typically not content.

Boys generally show aggression when confronted with a challenge, whereas girls are more likely to simply surrender. Despite this, the offspring of authoritarian parents generally do well academically due to the disciplined upbringing they experience.

Permissive parenting:

This style is characterized by few rules, low demands, and high warmth and responsiveness. Parents often act as friends rather than authority figures, and they avoid using punishment or discipline.

This style of parenting is characterized by a lack of rules, boundaries, and discipline. Parents who adopt a permissive parenting style tend to be very nurturing and loving, but they often allow their children to do whatever they want without any consequences. They may avoid confrontation and try to be their child’s friend instead of an authority figure.

Permissive parents tend to be very lenient and may avoid setting limits on their child’s behavior or enforcing consequences when rules are broken. They may give in to their child’s demands, even if it’s not in their best interest, to avoid conflict. This can lead to children feeling entitled and not understanding the concept of delayed gratification or the importance of working towards goals.

It’s important to note that permissive parenting is not the same as being an indulgent or overly lenient parent. Permissive parenting involves a lack of structure and consistency, whereas indulgent parents may still enforce rules but are more likely to give in to their child’s demands.

Authoritative parenting:

This style is characterized by a balance of high demands and expectations, along with warmth and responsiveness. Parents set clear rules and expectations, but they are also supportive and responsive to their children’s needs.

Authoritative parents demonstrate a combination of assertiveness and responsiveness. They set expectations for their children’s behavior but don’t attempt to impose their authority and welcome their children’s feedback. As a result, the children of such parents seem to be more lively and cheerful, with increased self-confidence. They also display better emotional control and are more socially adept.

On top of that, authoritative parents are more open-minded when it comes to their children’s behavior, disregarding gender stereotypes and allowing children to explore activities that may be traditionally associated with the opposite sex.

Neglectful parenting:

This style is characterized by low demands and low warmth and responsiveness. Parents may be disengaged or uninvolved in their children’s lives, and they may not provide the basic needs of food, shelter, and supervision. No need to elaborate on this… Do you think you’re a BAD DAD??

Helicopter parenting:

Helicopter parenting refers to a style of parenting where parents are overly involved in their children’s lives, often hovering over them and micromanaging their every move. These parents tend to be overprotective and excessively involved in their children’s academic, social, and extracurricular activities, sometimes to the point of not allowing their children to make their own decisions or experience failure.

There are many MANY mothers like this in Korea especially when it comes to education. Incredible…! The number of cram schools and activities that their kids are involved in is almost borderline insanity… To me, it seems that many of them simply don’t want their kids home too soon from school… It’s more complicated than that plus the uber-competitive society… No thanks! Not for my son~~

It’s worth noting that while these parenting styles are distinct, they are not necessarily mutually exclusive. Many parents may exhibit a blend of different styles, depending on the situation and the needs of their children. Additionally, different parenting styles may be more or less effective depending on a child’s temperament and developmental needs.

Conclusion

We hope you found the above information insightful and will seek out the many more resources available on this topic online. Your style will depend highly on where you were brought up, where you’re living now, and what type of parents you were raised with.

So? Where are you and your spouse in all this? It’s up to you to figure it out…I’m a mix of more than 2 of these styles… There is nothing wrong with multi-styled parenting ways too!

Be yourself! Be happy and lead well. They are only young once!

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